Yes, 2 months of being MIA, but I’m back now! So many of you asked if I can do a long distance relationship blog. I tried my best and this is what I have so far.
I once asked someone, “Why are you in a long distance relationship?”
She said, “To be honest, it wasn’t in my intention to be in a long distance relationship. It just happened like that. Out of the blue, I realized I really love this guy. He’s so different from everyone else. He’s so dashing, nice, gentle, and etc…. He has all the qualities I’m looking for a guy. He’s like the boy of my dreams.”
Many people are convinced that long distance relationship will not work. People will tell you not to take the relationship very seriously because at the end you’re only gonna get hurt. However, long distance relationships are full of surprises. So for this blog here are 10 tips to make long distance relationships work.
- Communicate Frequently
Make sure to send your “good morning” and “goodnight” messages! Even though you guys don’t talk a lot in one day as long as you send them those good morning and goodnight text you’re good. Remember what they say, the first person you text in the morning is the first person you think about when you wake up and same goes to goodnight texts. 😄
- Must Recognize Each Other’s Schedules
In able to communicate frequently you both need to know each other’s schedule. In addition, make sure when you go out/make plans with other people, tell the other person because they might start to think you’re ignoring them. They might also OVERTHINK (overthinking kills most of the girls lol). Especially for the ladies, they will create crazy scenarios in there head that you’re cheating or something. So make sure you both know each other’s schedule.
- Stay POSITIVE
DO NOT OVER THINK. Negative thoughts are bad for the relationship so NO NEGATIVE THOUGHTS ARE ALLOWED.
- Be Truthful
Stay honest and everything will be fine. If you made some mistakes tell your partner. Do not avoid conflict because it has many effects. Just like what my professor said, “If you avoid conflict there will be no growth, relationship won’t escalate, and it’s bad for health (if you keep in your conflicts it will cause stress).”
- Set Some Regulations
Everyone needs to set a rule especially in long distance. You both need to know what to expect from each other. For instance, you both need to text each other, “I’m home” or “I’m going ….” This ties up with recognize each other’s schedules.
- Talk Dirty 😉
♪ ♫ ♬Been around the world, don’t speak the language
But your booty don’t need explaining
All I really need to understand is
When you talk dirty to me
Talk dirty to me
Talk dirty to me♪ ♫ ♬
Sorry, I just had to sing that hahaha!! Anyway, even though you are distance from each other you need to have fun so talk dirty. You guys know what I mean. 😉
- Family & Friends Quality Time
Enjoy your time with family and friends. Your partner is not the only person on the planet, so don’t let your whole world revolving around him. Go out and do something fun! Go shopping, watch movies, eat, etc… As a result, this can make you feel less lonely.
You guys need to have goals. For example, when you guys see each other again what’s your plan? What’s your plan in the future? There are more questions, but for sure you guys get the idea.
- Visit Each Other
Visit each other and create memories! Enjoy the time you have together. This time the plane ticket might be round trip, but one day plane ticket will be one way.
- Avoid TOO MUCH Communication
I’m sorry to say this, but you guys don’t have to talk 24 hours. It doesn’t work like that sweetie. Some people are scared that if they don’t talk to their partner their feelings might fade away or something. Occasionally, communicating with your love is a bad thing because you will get use to it. Then, when you both get busy you guys communicate less and the other person might feel lonely. For instance, you don’t have to skype with them everyday just to see them.
Remember, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”